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I Want To Be A Better Person

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I'm diving deep into some 'feels' for today's post because I want to be a better person.

What does this even mean?  I'm not even sure myself but I just know I want to be better, I want to grow.  In my mind I've broken this down into a few categories because I think it's made it easier for me to scrutinise each one, so that's how I'm going to go through it with you guys, exactly as it is in my head...but in no particular order of importance might I add.

I want to be a better friend

Firstly friendships.  The topic of 'friendships' could be an entire blog post of it's own but I'm not quite ready to dive into that cesspool just yet.  Instead I'm just going to say that I often shy away from having friends, real friends, because unfortunately my past experiences haven't been particularly positive ones, so I close myself off.  But I do have a handful of people in my life that I can actually class as real friends and I think I need to make more effort with them.  I've come to the conclusion that everyone is busy in life, and that just because my career is quite full on doesn't mean that other people don't have shit to deal with as well.  I have a non-blogger friend, yes that's the technical term, she was a work colleague from a job I had over 7 years ago and we had the best time at work, all we did was laugh and it made that shitty job a whole lot better.  We lost our connection for a few years for one reason or another ('just busy' probably) and the next thing I know, she's had a baby and is engaged...and I couldn't be happier for her.  I've seen her a couple of times over the last few months and it's been lovely, the humour we share is still there as is that initial connection.  I can't even begin to tell you how refreshing it is to chat to someone about something other than blogging/YouTube.  Of course she gets curious and asks me questions about it but we just have normal chats about normal life things, and I love it.  But I need to make more effort because this kind of relationship is hard to come by.

I also have a blogger friend who I often feel like I neglect and don't make enough time for.  I feel like I haven't always been the best friend I can be when she's needed me and over the last 5-6 years of knowing her, I have probably been a dick on a few occasions too (this industry can do that to you).  Friendships with other bloggers can be very delicate, they can be destructive, they can be more hassle than they're worth but if you find the right one they can be wonderful.  This is a person who knows exactly what you're going through when you have a shitty day or when a brand hasn't paid an invoice they offer an ear to whine at and possibly some advice, free of charge.  The specific 'feels' that come with being in this industry are understood completely by a fellow blogger, because the chances are they've felt the same at some point.  These are often very valuable friendships to have, and when I say valuable I don't mean in a business sense, but in a personal sense.  I'm working on this friendship, making time, checking in, and just generally thinking about her rather than myself because it's a friendship that I don't want to lose.

I want to be a better wife

Ok we're not your average couple, we live together and work together so we have double the amount of pressure to deal with.  We're both human and we both make mistakes from time to time but Simon is one in a million and I think I could be a better wife.  I dedicate so much time to you guys, in fact we both do.  We sit in bed in an evening and I make sure that I have read all my YouTube comments, given them a heart and replied to as many as possible.  Simon replies from his own account to anyone asking him a question or giving him (or one of his many hats) a complement, and he gives a thumbs up to every single comment, it's his way of saying thank you for interacting with us.  But I take it to another level, and I don't for one second want you guys to feel like we don't enjoy interacting with you, because we do, but I think that maybe some of this time should be dedicated to him.  The lines of our relationship are blurred, it's very difficult to switch off 'work life' and go into 'home life' mode because the two are merged, home life is work life and vice versa.  Simon also cooks all of our meals and despite this being because I can't cook for shit, he does it because he loves me.  He puts up with my mood swings, and he often bears the brunt of whatever self loathing thoughts I'm having from time to time.  He keeps me grounded, he stops me from turning into a blogger-knob (another technical term for you there) and he makes me laugh on a daily basis which is probably the most valuable aspect of a relationship for me.  He works so hard on our videos, I don't have to tell you guys that as I'm sure you can see it yourself, but I don't think I give him enough credit and I certainly don't say thank you as much as I should do.  I can admit that I take him for granted and I think I just need to dedicate more time, and again, more effort to him.

I want to be a better daughter

I sound like a broken record here but I can be quite selfish at times, there's that only child syndrome again.  I can sometimes go for weeks without speaking to my mum and when I say speaking I mean Whatsapping, we probably haven't spoken on the phone in over a year.  I don't make the time to call her, or my dad, and as we live so far away from each other I really need to work on this, BIG TIME.  I have so much fun with my mum, as you guys might have seen on my YouTube channel and as much as we are alike, we are also very different.  But the funny thing is, I witnessed this exact same relationship that she had with my Grandma.  Occasionally getting frustrated and a bit 'short' with her because maybe her views were a bit outdated or maybe she was waffling on about something for just a bit too long, I'm the exact same with Mum.  I know my Mum and Dad are incredibly proud of me, and Simon, and I know they both understand that we lead a very hectic and busy life, but I need to make more time for just checking in with them and asking how they are.

I want to be a better human being

I'm so very lucky to have this job and all the perks that come with it.  Yes I worked for it all, I never gave up, but I do understand that I'm very fortunate to be in this position.  I used to sell some of my unused beauty products on Depop, they were more often than not PR gifts that I was never going to use for whatever reason.  I mentioned doing this in one of my weekly vlogs and a few people commented and said they were disappointed to hear that I was doing that.  That word, 'disappointed' really hit me hard.  I read through their comments and their point of view was that these products cost me nothing and that I am in a position where I am fortunate enough to not have to buy lots of beauty products, therefore they should be donated to women who need them.  If I'm being honest, I had never even considered doing this before, but what scared me most is that it had never even occurred to me to do this.  I am honest enough to admit that I am selfish, I always want more, and this handful of comments really hit home, and for that I'm very grateful.  I think lots of YouTubers consider these kind of comments to be 'hate' but it's actually constructive criticism and I value these comments equally as much as the really lovely positive ones, because they make me stop and think, rationalise, and change.  
There are lots of things I'm looking into at the moment to support various charities, including my number one passion, dogs.  I just want to help more, wherever and however I can, even if it's just spreading the word on social media, donating a few lipsticks or getting involved in that protest.  I know I can be a better person so it't time to get my ass into gear and do it.

Outfit Details

Shirt - Sezane

Jeans - Topshop

Bag - Loewe

Watch - Cartier

Short Necklace - Missoma

Round Pendant - Monica Vinader (worn on this chain )

Sunglasses - Ray Ban via World Duty Free

Shoes - ASOS (Old, but similar here

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  1. 18th April 2018 / 8:21 am

    What a brave and beautifully written piece. xxx

    • Milly
      18th April 2018 / 7:24 pm

      Emma you are human , funny and down to earth. Try not to beat yourself up. You’re also an animal lover which makes you a kind being! You also give us a weekly blog that we all look forward too.:-)

  2. 18th April 2018 / 9:00 am

    This was a very inspiring read. I think that you (and by you I mean every single person) can achieve anything you want with a bit of dedication and hard work. Good luck and keep going!

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:08 pm

      Thanks Anna, I couldn’t agree more x

  3. Sonja
    18th April 2018 / 9:13 am

    Take time to call your parents and visit them as often as you can. My father died two weeks ago and I’m glad I called and visited him as often as I could.

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:09 pm

      Sorry to hear that Sonja, sending big hugs your way xxx

  4. Josephine
    18th April 2018 / 9:39 am

    Loved this post so much. “Tough” and relatable. Most people can be better (what ever “better” involves in their mind) but it can be pretty hard to identity and then face what you’ve maybe been slacking a bit on. I too wanna be a better friend to my few friends and maybe even try and make some new or revive old ones (try and save the bridges I’ve burnt, perhaps).

    Xx

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:11 pm

      Yes it’s so easy to slip into a habit of slacking, for me it’s a habit of slacking on others and putting my all into my work. I’m pretty sure there’s a way I can do both. Glad you enjoyed the post and I hope you do rekindle some of those lost friendships x

  5. Kat
    18th April 2018 / 11:02 am

    A lot of what you’ve written about is about TIME. Nobody has enough if it and we’re all in the same boat. I guess it’s down to assessing what’s important to you and then prioritising. Even if that means mapping your day out, when you’re ticking more of those boxes it’ll feel so great. The biggest problem though is to be realistic. There is only so much you can physically do. Remember to take time for yourself. Xx

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:12 pm

      Absolutely. I’m quite good at managing my time when it comes to work things, it’s just become a habit of putting work first and others second, a habit I need to break x

  6. Rachel
    18th April 2018 / 11:05 am

    Love this post, thank you. And also thank you for being so open to the feedback you got about the products, it takes a lot to admit you can, should and want to change so well done you.

    I work stupid long shifts including nights and weekends so its very easy to let friendships and relationships slide. I’ve tried to make time for friends but hubby has slipped down the list so am going to rectify this now, thanks for the shove.

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:14 pm

      Thanks for sharing as well Rachel, I’m glad this post had a positive impact x

  7. Dawn
    18th April 2018 / 11:35 am

    Loved this post … heartfelt, sincere, searingly honest and as always, completely relatable. You are one of the few bloggers / you-tubers who I feel is really true to themselves and that’s what makes you special. I love how real your relationship is with your Mum and Simon, and the love you have for each other is clear. I think it’s normal to only have a handful or true friendships in real life, and usually they are the ones where you can go weeks or even months without talking but when you pick up the phone, it’s like you only spoke yesterday. That said, we all need reminding not to neglect them or take them for granted! I know this is also your job, but to me and I suspect many others, checking in on your blog or channel also feels like checking in on a friend. x

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:16 pm

      Ahh thank you Dawn, I love that you see it that way, thats exactly how I want us all to feel. Because we are friends, ok it might be of the online variety but the world is changing and a new form of friend is emerging and by making my videos and writing these kind of posts it’s like having a girly chat, a form of therapy if you like 🙂 x

  8. Shereen
    18th April 2018 / 2:17 pm

    Thank you for you’re openness. I feel we all have our struggles in life and the first thing is admitting we need to do something about it. Loving you’re blog posts lately ❤️

  9. Erin
    18th April 2018 / 3:02 pm

    I was sitting eating breakfast by myself and thinking the EXACT same thing (about myself lol). I pick up my phone to check your blog and well wow. This post really encourages me and I definitely encourage you back because these goals 100% worth it. Cheers to us making a change!

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:17 pm

      Cheers to us Erin 😉 haha x

  10. Hannah
    18th April 2018 / 4:04 pm

    I love your blog and videos Emma, and am particularly loving the content you are doing at the moment about non fashion and beauty topics….definitely think you should continue with that mix! This post in particular was really honest, and I found it comforting actually as a lot of what you said really hit home with me. I agree with what Kat commented and that a lot of it is down to time, and I know im guilty of not spending my free time wisely. Particularly during the week ill just power through with the weekend in sight… and most evenings just have dinner and watch tele when really i could be using that time to catch up with family or friends, or maybe doing something to become as you say ‘a better human being’. My family, friends and husband know I love them, but I know i’m guilty of taking them for granted, so after reading this post im going to go home tonight and call my mum & dad, tell my husband i love & appreciate him (particularly after my emotional outburst at him last night…ahem!) …. and maybe make some plans for catch ups ! Thanks! Xx

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:19 pm

      Oh Simon will sympathise with him on that one, I’m quite the ’emotional outburster’ myself haha. Thank you for sharing your own insights Hannah, I really love it when you guys share your experiences too x

  11. SartorialChoices
    18th April 2018 / 4:25 pm

    I think you’re already a very nice person and an honest one. I marvel at how much of yourselves you and your husband put out there. I know it had its costs. Good luck on your quest to give back more and have deeper relationships. Sounds like the beginning of a wonderful set of endeavours!

  12. Cecilia
    18th April 2018 / 4:30 pm

    Love the post Emma! Thanks for your honesty and kindess in a profession that is sometimes very “fake” and selfish. These thoughts that you brought us applys so much for all of us. We can improve as human being so much in need this days. Thank you very much for this inspiration! Sorry for my imperfect english. Best wishes from your Rio Number 1 fan!!!

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:23 pm

      Cecilia, firstly your English is excellent, hats off to you 😉 I agree, this industry can be all-consuming, it’s a tricky one to navigate and I constantly feel like I have to check myself and make sure I have my feet on the ground, but Simon is excellent with helping on that front. All I ever want to be is honest because I also feel that this industry can be dangerous, not just for young girls, but to everyone. Getting sucked in to ideas of the perfect life etc when there is no such thing. I’m glad you enjoyed the post, thank you so much for reading. Sending lots of love to you in Rio x

      • Cecilia
        18th April 2018 / 9:36 pm

        Thanks for such a nice replay. Keep up the great work, this attention to your followers is amazing. If I may give a resquest, please make more you tube videos with the dogs! I lost my recently (a 17 years old poodle, an angel) and the relationship that you guys have with them, reminds me so much with the one that I had… Also just an ideia, do some videos in London, some street sytle´s one! thank you! best wishes!

  13. Amy Chung
    18th April 2018 / 4:36 pm

    I loved this Emma! This is why you need to keep writing! Thank you for this!!

  14. 18th April 2018 / 4:37 pm

    Thumbs up for this article. I can definitely relate. I think with all the busy hustle that is life we tend to drop the ball in one or more areas of life. I think it tends to be a juggling act and it’s only human that we dedicate more to some areas or people than others. The first step is to be aware of it and acknowledge it and that’s the most important step. Good for you! Good luck with all these goals. I’m sure you will ace them all. Don’t be hard on yourself. X

  15. Emma Manley
    18th April 2018 / 4:41 pm

    Wow, this was a very honest, brave and raw post. I think we’re probably all guilty of neglecting our nearest and dearest a lot of the time and the ‘oh, I’m so busy’ phrase often slips out of our mouths before we’ve even had time to think about what the real reason is for not making time for others or making them our priority. I think it’s also easy to become quite insular in society today with us all stuck behind our phones or screens; but the absolute joy you get from spending time with loved ones is like no other pleasure I can describe! We could all learn a thing or two from this post and now, well, it’s down in writing so you’ll have to honour what you’ve written!! xx

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:25 pm

      There’s no going back now, haha, thanks Emma x

  16. 18th April 2018 / 4:41 pm

    Such a beautifully written and honest post! xx

  17. Veronika
    18th April 2018 / 5:10 pm

    Beautiful post (and great outfit) 🙂 Emma you are a true inspiration and a girlcrush! 🙂 I really like how natural you are in your vlogs and it is nice to see bloggers have feelings like us normal people (you know what I mean :D) I also struggle with having friends because of not so good experiences in the past. And I find it really difficult to maintain a regular contant because of all the worries I have. So there’s more of us struggling with having solid friendships! Wish you and Simon (and the doggies) the best 🙂

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:28 pm

      I completely feel you Veronika, I think that might be why I struggle too with friends. It’s very difficult for me to trust because I’m quite sensitive and if I get wind that someone has said something nasty behind my back that’s it, I cut them off immediately and want nothing more to do with them. But with my friends who wouldn’t ever do that, there’s still that element of doubt in my head that they might, and I struggle to let go. I suppose I think that if I keep a distance then I won’t get hurt, but I need to work on that for sure x

  18. Natali
    18th April 2018 / 5:21 pm

    Just you writing this post down and explaining into bits how and why you wanna be a better person in my eyes makes you a superwoman!
    This is such a moving, raw and inspiring post, thank you for being so open and real.

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    • 18th April 2018 / 6:29 pm

      Thank you Natali, not sure I could pull of spandex so maybe I’ll be a blazer wearing superwoman haha 😉

  19. 18th April 2018 / 5:36 pm

    Not many people would have the integrity to call themselves out like that, and very few people would be brave enough to admit they are selfish.
    Even rarer is for somebody to admit that is so in public.
    I half expected this post to be a pity party, but instead you had the emotional maturity to reflect, share and admit to a flaw that many would try to hide.
    You’re already a better person for writing this, half the battle is recognising our weaknesses, and I admire your strength in wanting to improve and make a difference.
    Thank you for sharing with us.x.

    • 18th April 2018 / 6:31 pm

      Thank you Elizabeth, it was a tough one to write, heck it was tough to think about and then admit to myself but life’s too short for slacking with the people that mean the most to us so I need to pull my finger out x

  20. Melissa
    18th April 2018 / 5:45 pm

    Great post! You aren’t the only one who needs to do this. I’m in the same boat on some of these items. I’m not a blogger but your feelings are right in line with mine a lot of the time. Keep up the good work!

  21. Andréa
    18th April 2018 / 5:55 pm

    Thought provoking and a wonderful read! I’m very glad that you’re keeping true to yourself and you’re taking the time to stop and think about the important things in life…Looking forward to your future blog posts!

  22. 18th April 2018 / 6:33 pm

    This post is fab Emma. I think it’s something most of us can relate to but it’s very brave to admit it not only to yourself but to tons of people! Love your posts as always. Sarah x

  23. Ingrid
    18th April 2018 / 6:34 pm

    Very well written Emma. I think all of us can relate to each category that you laid out, some more than others. My biggest downfall is definitely the friendship one. As an introvert I struggle with prioritizing making plans with friends – especially those who have recently had kids, gotten married, or moved to another city. It was a goal of mine in 2018, which I had conveniently forgotten about. Thank you for reminding me of it!
    Also, bravo for addressing some of the guilt you’ve felt about being selfish and admitting that your first thought isn’t always altruism. Not many people/bloggers would put that into writing for their followers to see. I can’t wait to hear about what causes/charities you find to support. Another 2018 goal of mine was volunteering at my local animal shelter. I did this in grad school (because it was required to have volunteer hours) and I loved being able to walk the dogs and interact with some of the neglected animals. Thanks again for putting some goals into the forefront of my mind. Hi to Simon and the pups 🙂

  24. Susana Azevedo
    18th April 2018 / 6:40 pm

    Really loved this post. So honest. It’s so refreshing to read something like this. Made me think about myself and made me want to change some of my attitudes. Thank you

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:22 pm

      Thank you Susana and I’m glad it had such a positive impact x

  25. Debi Gates
    18th April 2018 / 7:01 pm

    I admire you insight and honesty, and the fact you were willing to share your thoughts to inspire others. We appreciate that you and Simon always respond either with a comment or a like/heart…but speaking for myself, but guessing most others agree, we will understand if you don’t always do this. I agree your personal time and relationship with Simon is way more important and is what really counts in life. Also, I am the mother of an only child/daughter too, and yes we do understand when you get busy in life, but we also miss our girls and the sound of their voices. Go call your parents! ❤ P.S. Don’t feel like you have to respond…go give Simon a hug instead.

  26. 18th April 2018 / 7:16 pm

    Aww Emma what a beautifully written post. I find blogging extremely therapeutic at time and I’m sure when you sat down to write this it made things become more real. Well done you for being brave enough to try and address them and hit publish 🙂 I honestly love watching you guys on YT my kids even shout EMMA when they hear your voice keep being you the rest will fall into place.

    Ps run a comp to go on a shopping day with you and let me win x

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:24 pm

      hahaaaaaa well say ‘hi’ to the kids from me 🙂
      Thank you Lynne, I’m really glad you enjoy these posts, they can be tough to write and scary to publish but honesty is the best policy right x

  27. Milly
    18th April 2018 / 7:25 pm

    Emma you are human , funny and down to earth. Try not to beat yourself up. You’re also an animal lover which makes you a kind being! You also give us a weekly blog that we all look forward too.:-)

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:25 pm

      It wasn’t about beating myself up, it was more so about improving as a human being 🙂 x

  28. Sarah
    18th April 2018 / 7:29 pm

    This is a wonderful post Emma, and very relatable. You’ve inspired me to reflect on things in the same way, which is very tough to do, but I think it’s definitely an important process. I know you have said before that writing doesn’t come easily to you, but please know that this was beautifully honest and so well written. I only discovered your blog, insta and YouTube relatively recently but you’ve very quickly become one of the only accounts I still subscribe to. Funnily enough, this post also got me thinking that I want to be a much better subscriber. Bloggers and YouTubers like yourself inspire me on a daily basis, and have been a welcome and comforting distraction through some tough times. Yet I have a tendency to be quite a passive subscriber, always forgetting to thumbs up, scrolling past absent mindedly without double tapping. I need to improve on this, as I really do appreciate the work which goes into it all. So a huge thank you for everything you do!

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:26 pm

      Thank you Sarah and honestly, just knowing that you enjoy these posts and/or videos means the world to both me and Simon x

  29. Elana
    18th April 2018 / 7:50 pm

    So eloquently written . I think you speak for many of us . Xo Elana – Toronto

  30. Danish Pastry
    18th April 2018 / 7:53 pm

    Some of the best blog posts I have read are the ones when the blogger gives a lot of herself, sharing thoughts, doubts and in this case improvements to be made, and generally being honest and human. This post is up there with the best of them!
    By sharing this you’re giving the rest of us food for thought, are their relationships in my life I need to work on? Certainly! I think that realising this means you’re part way to achieving these goals.
    By being so honest you’re helping de-bunk the myth that a bloggers life is perfect. The truth is no-one has a truly perfect life, there are always down sides. Being successful often means working your butt off, and this means something usually has to give, and that’s okay. The important thing is to realise this, and work out what is important in life. Relationships (of all kinds) have got to be top of the list!
    Thank you for this post!

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:28 pm

      Thank you for reading Ms. Pastry 😉 x

  31. 18th April 2018 / 7:58 pm

    A very insightful and honest piece. The fact you actually think about these things, let alone share with the world and act on them, shows how sincere you are.

  32. 18th April 2018 / 8:11 pm

    What a refreshing read via social media, honest and real. Many people will be too self absorbed to recognise, let alone admit some openly to selfishness, so doing so is probably the biggest step! Bravo Emma xx

  33. Laura
    18th April 2018 / 10:30 pm

    What a lovely read this was. I haven’t been lucky enough to find a partner yet but I must admit I have been very fortunate on the friend front and I do put a lot of time into my friendships. Recently though I noticed my oldest friend who I have known since I was 13 I barely see which made me sad thinking I spend all this time on other friends why not her and because we have the history I thought well it’s because I know she will always be there. This is where I said to myself no that’s not good enough we must get back on track. So now when I see her I don’t leave her without getting another date in the diary, even if it’s something small like going for a walk or a coffee. I mean I even said to her once let’s just pick a film and press play at the same time whilst we are both at home , technically we are still watching a film together right? It’s just messaging our comments instead of saying them. Anyway long story short my advice is to get stuff in the diary for next time before you leave each other’s sides. Even if it’s a few months away at least it’s in there and it will happen ☺️ x

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:32 pm

      I completely agree with this theory. Me and my friend (non-blogger) used to watch TOWIE together and message like that when it first started haha x

  34. Janine
    18th April 2018 / 10:46 pm

    What a fab article Emma! Keep ‘em coming please – they encourage us all to reflect on our own lives and see how we can better ourselves too xx

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:32 pm

      Thanks Janine, will do 😉 x

  35. 18th April 2018 / 11:10 pm

    I think we can all take a leaf out of your book.

    It’s so easy to get wrapped up in ourselves and I think it’s great to stop and look around once in a while.

    Really beautiful post Emma

  36. Trece Moreno
    18th April 2018 / 11:26 pm

    This really touched my heart and opened up my mind and to take a step back and think to myself hey this is me and to work on each relationship. I am a wife and mother of four and sometimes he seems it’s just not enough time in the day, but i have to stop making excuses and make time. I would love for my kids to do these things also as they get older. But first it starts with me. Once again thank you for being so open and honest. I am positive you have open and touched alot of us to make a change.

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:34 pm

      Thank you Trece, I’m really happy these posts are having such a positive impact on so many of you xxx

  37. Melissa W.
    19th April 2018 / 3:33 am

    This was so beautiful and refreshing. Every day, I want to be a better person than the day before, and sometimes I succeed. Sometimes I don’t. But I try. I need to give myself more credit for that. Thank you for this thoughtful post.

  38. Trish
    19th April 2018 / 3:52 am

    Inspiring post! And I have to say that it’s actually really refreshing to read too – for those of us that follow so many beautiful, stylishly dressed bloggers and envy the seemingly perfect lives that are portrayed over Instagram, it’s nice to be reminded that we’re all just human with real feelings and real problems.

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:35 pm

      oh yes, don’t be fooled by the smoke and mirrors of social media 🙂 x

  39. RachelinOz
    19th April 2018 / 4:47 am

    Brave self reflective post Emma. I think we’re all so busy trying to get ahead we forget to be thankful for what we already have (friends, family and material possessions). Great to take a moment to reality check. Women’s refuges are always in need of make up (and basic toiletries!). It would be great if you, and other bloggers would consider donating your unwanted gifted items to one of them through something like giveandmakeup. These women and often their children really do have nothing…https://www.carolinehirons.com/page-give-and-makeup

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:37 pm

      Ah yes I think I also saw Victoria from inthefrow doing something like this too, It’s definitely something that I’ll be looking into getting involved with as my beauty boxes fill up with bits to give away x

  40. RachelinOz
    19th April 2018 / 5:15 am

    Thought some more about this over lunch, and found this recent UK article. https://www.the-pool.com/beauty/beauty-honestly/2018/7/Sali-Hughes-and-Jo-Jones-launch-Beauty-Banks The statistics here are staggering (and shameful). Hopefully your post triggers a reaction from your readers – I know there’s always one item in a gift box I’m not going to use! And I do like their suggestion of taking the hotel toiletries and passing them on.

    Off to see if there’s an equivalent programme in Australia, as I know we have many of the same ‘hygiene poverty’ issues.

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:40 pm

      Yes a lot of food for thought there x

  41. Alyssa
    19th April 2018 / 5:28 am

    You’re lovely! Thanks for an open and thoughtful post. You’re such a wonderful mix of light and fun, with thoughtful and real. Enjoy everything you do!

  42. Lisa H
    19th April 2018 / 6:46 am

    Love this very honest post. I can relate to the friendship amd daughter aspects so much.

    Friendships are hard and as you mention I have been burnt a few times and now keep people at arms length. I need to learn to open up and make the effort. As you say when you chat with a good friend time apart becomes irrelevant and you soon slot back together. Those are the friendships we all should cherish. That we all so often look over.

    Re the daughter I have made changes this year. My parents live back in UK and I make the effort to call once a month at least. They tell me the same stories and moan that bread has gone up in Morrisons by 2p (lol) that week but I listen and enjoy the time. A time I know others dont have that again as you say we all take for granted.

    I think we all struggle in life to keep all the plates spinning. I am also of the opinion us women put alot of pressures on to keep everything going.

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:45 pm

      haha the outrage over that bread, to be fair that’s something I’d probably tell people about multiple times too 😉
      I’m glad you enjoyed the post and it’s great to hear you made such positive changes in your life x

  43. 19th April 2018 / 7:41 am

    Emma I really enjoyed reading this, I am very similar to you, I work and live with my husband. I want to be a better friend, wife, daughter and human. It was refreshing seeing my thoughts in your words. Simon is the wind beneath your wings as is my husband, they are happy the see us fly high and do well and keep us grounded. We are lucky to have that one in a million good guy xxx

  44. Annette
    19th April 2018 / 8:13 am

    Please try to be kind to yourself – easier to be ‘a better person’ from accepting our ‘faults’ than self loathing due to too much self reflection. If ever you happen to be in the Maidstone area, message me and come for a cup of tea/chat (no cameras)x

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:47 pm

      Unfortunately self loathing comes with this job, it’s also something I’m working on but this post was actually a positive thing, recognising my faults and writing them down to spur myself on to be a better person 🙂 x

  45. Patricia
    19th April 2018 / 10:46 am

    I absolutely love this Emma! This is so aunthentic and something that not many people are willing to admit, much less work on. I watch ALL your videos (and I love them loads) but reading a post like this is the reason I will never stop following your blog. Much love from Kenya!

  46. 19th April 2018 / 9:08 pm

    That was lovely, honest and true.

  47. 20th April 2018 / 6:14 am

    Thanks for this Emma. I think a lot of us can relate. I‘m also on this journey. For this year, besides wanting to concentrate more on my friends and family, I‘ve also embarked on a journey away from fast fashion. The damage that the likes of H&M, Zara, Mango cause in the world is immense on so many levels. Environmentally in terms of the production and non-biodegradable materials used and workers being exploited …. and us end-consuners often ‚donating‘ clothes to charity after a couple of seasons (did you know charities don‘t know what to do with the mountains and mountains of low-quality clothes anymore). Anyway, rambled enough – but this could be a topic for a blog posts – cool and stylish ethicals fashion brands – I have not found that many options yet, and you know your way around the fashion world. Just an idea. Hugs and thatnls for your and Simons wonderful work!

    • 20th April 2018 / 7:14 am

      Yep I’m aware of this and totally respect you for doing it but when you have a job like myself it’s not really possible to walk away from the likes of H&M, Mango, Zara, Topshop etc. H&M, and Mango are a couple that have created ethical lines and this is a step in the right direction but there are always going to be a large percentage of people that need shops like Primark because their income can’t stretch to the likes of these highly priced ethical brands. I don’t donate clothes to charity shops, I actually donate them to women refuge centres for women who have suffered domestic violence etc. New clothes help them get back on their feet and the clothes are directly used rather than going to a landfill.
      For those of us who do love an ethical brand then I will be doing a video on that, but yes sadly there aren’t many that exist with nice clothing and they’re all pretty pricey, bar Everlane which I think is quite reasonable, but very basic. However on the environmental side we have stopped using single use plastics, no straws, no Starbucks cups, we buy our meat and fresh produce from the butchers so there’s no plastic packaging involved, we’ve stopped buying polyester clothing for our own wardrobes etc etc
      Thank you Sandra x

      • 20th April 2018 / 7:56 pm

        Great to hear that I‘m not alone trying to take some steps in the right direction. I agree witj you there are not many ethical brands yet with ‚cool‘ clothes unfortunately.

        • 23rd April 2018 / 5:41 pm

          baby steps, every year more are emerging so let’s hope the high street can come up with a way to change their ways too x

  48. Silke
    20th April 2018 / 4:26 pm

    I love this honest post of yours! Makes you even more authentic. Would love if you did a review on how you kept up with some of your goals in a view weeks.
    Thanks for all the recent content – just love it! Thanks to Simon as well!
    Keep on the great work.

    Much love from a German who just moved to the UK.

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:49 pm

      I definitely will keep you guys updated and there are already some updates in this weeks vlog as well 🙂 x

  49. Jenny
    21st April 2018 / 10:37 am

    What a beautiful piece Emma! I have been following you on YouTube for a couple of months and am eagerly awaiting new content every week. You can definitely see the hard work that you and Simon dedicate to your work! The things you “struggle” with are so human – we all have busy lives, should call our parents more, make more time for our friends and not take our partner for granted. The most important thing is to be self-reflective and to actually acknowledge that we are not perfect. As a reader, user, follower – you admitting publicly probably helps a lot of people to get their priorities straight. We all have our areas in life where we could improve. It might be not buying at Primark anymore, spending less time online or taking better care of ourselves. But that is life and each and every single one has to take their little personal steps in the direction that is right for them.
    Be proud of what you have accomplished so far. And be proud that you are seeing the areas you have been neglecting and that you are actually working on yourself. (There are still many people that don`t do that!). You two are doing an amazing job!

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:50 pm

      Thank you Jenny and thank you for the support x

  50. Madeleine
    22nd April 2018 / 7:43 pm

    Hello Emma,
    I got to watch your YouTube videos starting with a haul, over a year ago, assuming you were just another tall, slim, gorgeous, well-dressed, wealthy woman in the business of fashion – but then I got into your vlogging videos and got hooked, because you really do come across as genuine, funny, smart and, endearingly so, as an unrepentent food-lover 😉 I like that you can be honest about the blogging life and your own shortcomings while producing great fashion-oriented content, with all the glamour and style it entails. Watching your videos, reading your blog, and glimpsing outfits of yours on Insta is a true pleasure, and you should be proud of the person you are as well as the person you are trying to be, and damn proud of your content too!
    I’m glad I was so mistaken about you (and will try and shove these dumb assumptions to the bin, from now on)…
    xxx

    • 23rd April 2018 / 5:51 pm

      Thank you Madeleine and thank you for giving me the benefit of the doubt, I think lots of other women in this industry might surprise you too 🙂 x

  51. Fatos
    22nd April 2018 / 9:47 pm

    Such an honest and inspiring piece. Makes us appreciate your blogs and blogs even more…Thank you,

  52. Claire
    23rd April 2018 / 12:46 am

    Thank you for sharing these warm and genuine thoughts, Emma! As 32 yos navigating our careers and work-life balances, my hubs and I have become big fans of your content! The work you do has a lot of meaning. It’s so much more than brands and frills, you really inspire us to find daily joy, purpose, and laughter. Plus, you and Simon are so lovely and engaging! Sending lots of love from the States. Keep doing you! Your compass is spot on!

  53. Hélène
    23rd April 2018 / 9:02 pm

    This post sounds so honest! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

  54. 25th April 2018 / 1:22 am

    This was a really lovely, thoughtful post. And a good reminder to me, and probably all of us, to try and be a better person.

    Thank you.

    Bettye

  55. Hannah
    25th April 2018 / 5:25 pm

    This is so incredibly thoughtful – love the honesty. This makes you EVEN more relatable. We’ve all got those “I should be a better ….” thoughts but it’s very inspirational of you to change that to “I want to be a better ….” Totally inspired to do the same! I also love how we’re still getting just as much fashion and style as well as these new blog posts! Loving your work. Thank you.

  56. Alex
    25th April 2018 / 5:52 pm

    Nobody is perfect …if we were what a perfectly boring place this world would be !! Everyone has flaws but as long as you are kind and don’t deliberately set out to hurt someone it’s ok ….I enjoy your YouTube content, follow you on Instagram and thought I’d give the blog a read (sound like a proper stalker!). I like your writing style, so once the little cherubs are in bed I’ll sit at the Mac and have a binge read!!

  57. 29th April 2018 / 10:30 pm

    What an honest post, and it’s resonated home with me especially with friendships, definitely something I too want to try harder with. Thanks for inspiring xx

  58. Marcia Davis
    30th April 2018 / 10:57 pm

    Ahhh. Despite the disparity on age, you remind me of myself. Always working on being a “better human being”. It’s a lifelong effort but also brings great joy. My husband (Bruce) is a hoot and makes me laugh; he also keeps me grounded – much like Simon does for you. I’ve commented a few times on your YouTube that you, Simon and the puppies make me laugh. I realize that is just one more bit of joy in my life. Thank you for that.

  59. Marcia Davis
    30th April 2018 / 10:58 pm

    Why do I always see misspellings/grammar issues right after I hit ?!! Grrr.

  60. Thelma Michael
    5th May 2018 / 6:03 pm

    I love your Blog Emma and this is such a beautiful post, loved reading every word of it.

  61. 5th May 2018 / 6:51 pm

    I finally got to the end of the comment section . Meaning you have even more responsibility when you have such a huge following . I praise you for this brave post.
    Admitting that you have some issues is a bold step. I am one of your rare male followers, I’m a gay guy who has a history in fashion and write a fashion blog for women. Many of your concerns are universal, everyone has doubts and desires to be a better person. After years of therapy, I can now honestly say I’m ok .
    Being ok is ok . The one piece of advice I have learned is “be kind” . Part of practicing kindness is living in mindfulness.
    Thank-you for your courage .
    Jandrew
    Dress The Part
    http://www.jandrewspeaks.com

  62. Linda
    6th May 2018 / 11:00 pm

    Emma, you are such a great person with such a unique style. Admitting these things about yourself and publicly is admirable. You might not be the humanitarian your followers want you to be but obviously you are trying.
    I think there is something about your personality, style and self knowledge that makes you intriguing. I only found your channel in December but have since fallen in love with the way you present your content. I love the fact that you are so effortlessly chic and try to cover all budgets.

    Side note- I met a girl at a party over the weekend who is into fashion and we bonded over much we loved you! It was so random. We decided that if we were ever gonna spend an afternoon with a YouTuber it would be you. It is clear that you captured both our hearts in a way that no YouTuber has ever managed and for that, well done.

  63. Mia Odlin
    17th May 2018 / 8:29 pm

    Oh Emma, we ALL can be better people and do something more or less, we are only human, this was beautifully written! It’s so nice and refreshing to read this sort of content. We all sit here looking at your pictures, blogs& videos and think “God she is so perfect and life is daisies and danidilions” and it’s nice to know no one is perfect and we all could do more/better!

  64. T Stuart
    22nd May 2018 / 8:22 pm

    Hi Emma

    As a seriously middle aged woman I just wanted to say how much I love your Blogs and particularly the Vlogs (with Simon and the babies!). It looks like you are going through a strong and reflective period in your life but this post is incredibly strong and moving. As someone who nearly lost their husband to cancer recently you are right to think about the time you and Simon have just got to yourselves and not us… you really never know how long you have together and yes we are still going strong so far 🙂 ….also right to think about mum and dad who will always be there for you no matter how long it takes you to call or visit… but they too will get older so keep up the contact… it is heartbreaking when you want to call and can’t any more….

    Friends…. hmmmm am a little like you in that respect… good ones hard to find… so when you do hold them tight and remember we are all flawed diamonds ….

    Keep up the entertaining and informative work … not sure at this stage whether you genuinely know or realise what an impact it has on people of all ages … such fun and real too. I cried too at your anxiety and concern when your dog went for his teeth out…

    Don’t mean this to be a doom and gloom message so apologies if it comes over like that.

    Love
    Stacey

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